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Going Through A Divorce? 4 Steps To Help Ease The Transition For Your Kids

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Divorce can be extremely difficult for children. They may be left to wonder how the divorce will affect them. While your legal team will take care of the paperwork, it's up to you to make sure that your children's emotional needs are taken care of. Children have an easier time dealing with divorce when both parents work together to create a healthy environment for your kids. Here are four steps you and your spouse can take to make sure your child's emotional needs are taken care of.

Keep Things Familiar 

Schedules and routines are important for children. They help maintain structure and create a feeling of security for your kids. If your child has a routine in place, try to stick to it even after the divorce. For instance, if your child has pre-arranged playdates, or extracurricular activities, try to incorporate those activities into your custody arrangements.

Encourage Parental Bonding

You and your spouse have reached the end of your relationship. That doesn't mean the child/parent relationships have ended. The best way to keep your kids emotionally healthy is to encourage continued parental bonding. Kids often feel guilty about showing love to parents during a divorce. This is particularly true if one or both parents are openly hostile about their spouse. Encouraging a strong child/parent bond will help your child understand that its' okay to continue loving both parents.

Commit to Co-Parenting

Co-parenting doesn't mean you both have to have the exact same parenting techniques. However, it does mean that you need to work together for the good of your child. Even if you both have different opinions about proper parenting, you can still come to an agreement about certain routines, such as bedtimes and homework.

Give Your Kids Their Own Space

When it comes to divorce, it can be difficult for children to get used to the new living arrangements. Your child is going to go from living in one home to splitting their time between multiple homes. You and your spouse can help your child adapt to the changes by creating a private space for your child in each home. Instead of packing a bag each time your child goes to visit the other parent, make sure they have their own belongings at each location. This can help your child develop their own sense of belonging.

The time has come to end your marriage. If you have children, it's important for you and your spouse to work together to create a healthy environment for your kids. Use the tips provided here to help your kids adjust to the divorce.